People Avoid Being Specific as Long as Possible

Don’t assume refining an idea happens in your head.  Get it on paper then use your eraser, so to speak.

We can illustrate this point with an incident involving an inventive sex move I was meant to try on a new girl I know.   I’ve been lucky to be sleeping with her so far.  She quickly mentioned it during an afternoon coffee meetup.  It sounded really cool, and my mood certainly was lifted. But still I was unsure on the details.  

Once the moment came, it began by … let’s illustrate this using a wakeboarding analogy.  If you’re attempting an impressive wakeboarding flip you won’t make beneficial corrections in your imagination before you even try.  It’s best to hit the wake, flail a time or two, and correct from there.  Now, visualizations can help at this point.  But before your body has any clue what to do it needs to know what an attempt feels like.  So in this analogy the process is to feel the experience, imagine a heightening of the experience, nudge this and nudge that, then repeat.

Feel the experience, imagine a heightening of the experience, nudge this and nudge that, then repeat.  Feel the experience, imagine a heightening of the experience, nudge this and nudge that, everyone repeat.

So don’t worry about anything before it occurs.  If you believe you have the ability to adjust when you’re involved with something you’ll be fine.

Learning how to deal in specifics is an enormous skill.  And learning how to make the specifics actually good takes place in at least one type of tangible medium (there’s five).  It doesn’t happen in your head, that thing is horrible with specifics.